Private 1:1 Self-Restoration Support
with Dr. Ashley
One-Hour
Consultation
Choose from two options:
One-Hour Consultation
You're working on Self-Restoration.
You have questions. You want some guidance. You want to talk it through.
That's why I offer a one-time 60-minute consultation tailored specifically to what you're going through right now.
Tell me about the challenges you are experiencing with your relationship dynamic. Ask me all of your questions about how to step back, disengage from the nonsense, and cultivate a deeper sense of self-trust. Let me know what scares you about making these changes.
Together, we'll talk through it all. I'll offer you feedback about what I'm hearing, ideas for how to navigate your current situation, and suggestions for how best to support yourself through this process.
My goal is that you walk away feeling more clear, courageous, and inspired to keep going on your personal journey of Self-Restoration.
Who this consultation is for:
This consultation is specifically for the Overfunctioning Woman in Love who is working on Self-Restoration. You may be anywhere on this journey ~ new to all of it and becoming aware of your Overfunctioning, in the "messy middle" of stepping back and seeing if your relationship can change, preparing to make the decision to divorce, moving into life after divorce, or dating and wanting to make sure you don't repeat old patterns. The focus of our time together is on you and your relationship (which means we can't tackle other issues that may be going on in your life).
The details:
👩💻 This meeting is conducted online over Zoom. A link will be provided to you once scheduling and payment are complete.
📝 AI note-taking will be used during the meeting, if you want. This way you can focus on our conversation and have a written summary ready for you when we're done.
📆 If you need to reschedule, please provide at least 24 hours written notice so that the time can be offered to someone else. Cancellations that occur within 24 hours of the meeting will be charged in full.
💻 Upon completion of our meeting, you will receive a unique $100 coupon code to use towards the purchase of any of my On-Demand Masterclasses (single classes & bundles).
❤️🩹 This time is designed to support you ~ please plan to attend solo.
Investment: A one-hour consultation is $400. Payment in full is due at the time of scheduling. Accepted payment methods include major credit/debit cards (Visa, Mastercard, Amex), digital wallets (Apple Pay, Google Pay), and bank transfers/debits.
**Please note, this one-time consultation is not therapy, and we are not establishing a therapist-client relationship.
8 weeks of Daily Support & Guidance
How would it feel to have a Self-Restored BFF available at your fingertips while you're going through one of the greatest (and, let's be honest, also the hardest) transformations of your entire life?
That's exactly what you get when we work 1:1 together for 8 weeks.
Because detangling yourself from Overfunctioning while also navigating their Underfunctioning is H A R D.
It's confusing. Overwhelming. Exhausting. And, at times, really scary.
This is where I come in:
- I'll hold your hand
- I'll help you see things clearly
- I'll cheer you on
- I'll be there to debrief after a big conversation
- I'll make suggestions
- I'll brainstorm solutions with you
- I'll remind you that you can do hard things
- I'll hold space for all of your feelings
- I'll be your biggest fan
- I'll make sure you know you're not alone
Here's what's included in our 8-week time together:
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📲 Daily WhatsApp Text & Voice Messaging: Ask me questions. Tell me about an interaction you just had with your partner and what patterns you noticed. Let me know when you're about to talk with them so I can be thinking of you. And the list goes on.... Whatever you need, we'll use daily text and voice notes to support you in shifting out of your old Overfunctioning ways, and start embodying a more self-supportive, self-respecting version of yourself who no longer gets caught up in their nonsense. Think of these messages as chatting with your Self-Restored BFF who will hold space for you, lovingly point things out, and cheer you on every step of the way! You truly, truly won't be doing this work alone.
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📝 Structured Weekly Guidance & Assignments: We will follow my signature 7-step Self-Restoration Process (RESTORE) to help you shift out of Overfunctioning, and come back home to yourself. Each week, I will provide observation exercises, journal prompts, and behavioral changes for you to try that will help you implement each step and help you become a Self-Restored Woman.
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👩💻 Two 1-hr Video Meetings: We will meet virtually two times during our work together ~ once at the beginning to learn about your goals for our time together, and once at the end to celebrate your progress and create an action plan for you to maintain your progress and continue on this personal journey towards Self-Restoration.
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💻 Free Lifetime Access to my Foundational Masterclass: You will get FREE lifetime enrollment in my super popular Masterclass - The Overfunctioning Woman: Who She Is & How She Heals. Consider this a crash course in how to stop Overfunctioning. We'll apply this content to your personal situation. (If you're already enrolled in this course, then you may choose to enroll in one of my other four classes instead).
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🦋 Membership to The Self-Restoration Community: You will get two FREE months of membership to my online, private, women-only community while we are working together. This is an incredible space to do your work alongside other Overfunctioning Women who "get" this struggle, and who also want to become Self-Restored. If you're already a member of the Community, your membership fees will be waived for two months during our 1:1 time together.
**Please note, working together during these 8 weeks is not therapy, and we are not establishing a therapist-client relationship.
Investment: $4,800 pay-in-full at the start of the 8 weeks ~ or ~ $5000 payable in two monthly payments of $2,500
If the above type of Self-Restoration Support resonates with you, please complete the application below. If your goals and needs align with what I am offering and I have an opening, I will email you with your invitation to join.
You wish there was a place where you could connect with other women who are going through this same mess...
Welcome to
The Self-Restoration Community is where Overfunctioning Women gather to feel seen, supported, held, guided ~ and connected ~ as they journey through the choppy waters of stepping back from Overfunctioning.
The Community is facilitated by Dr. Ashley Southard, a Self-Restoring Woman who was once an Overfunctioning Woman herself.
After spending over two decades in a one-sided love relationship, I finally realized that doing more for them and the relationship was getting me nowhere fast. So, I started doing more for ME, and gave them the space to decide if they wanted to step up and match me in effort, or keep Underfunctioning and let it all fall apart.
Spoiler alert: it all fell apart.
But, that breakdown became my biggest breakthrough ~ for it was in this darkness that I reconnected with the light of my courage, my clarity, and my self-respect.
I began to GLOW with Self-Restoration.
Now, I am here to hold a safe space for all of the Overfunctioning Women out there who are learning how to shine their own light, as they face some of the darkest decisions, emotions, and uncertain futures.
And it is in this safe space where women hold the lanterns for each other, offering validation, encouragement, empathy, and resources.
As a member, you get 24/7 access to
So. Much. Goodness.
This is a self-paced community, so you can engage as much or as little as you want. There is no “falling behind."
This Community is for YOU if you are...
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Married, separated, divorced, single, dating ~ all relationship statuses are welcome here
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Quietly suffering while holding it all together for the kids, your job, and the relationship
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Agonizing over whether to stay or leave your relationship
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Wanting to stay together or not wanting to stay together ~ we honor whatever choice is right for you
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Questioning if you're asking for too much and wondering if maybe you're the problem and you're just not seeing something
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Brand new or far along in your Self-Restoration journey ~ because personal growth is lifelong, there is something for everyone inside the community
...wherever you are in your journey, you are welcome here.
Frequently Asked Questions
Can men and/or Underfunctioning Partners join this group?
No. This is a private membership community for individuals who self-identify as women and who are actively working on healing from Overfunctioning. Those who violate this guideline will be immediately removed without a refund.
How does membership work?
It's month-to-month, so no long-term commitments or contracts. You get immediate access to everything right away. You can easily cancel on your own anytime before your next billing cycle.
Do I have to use my real name?
No, but it's preferred to support emotional safety and transparency in the community. If you are concerned about your privacy, simply register with your initials or a pseudonym (or change your name once you have created your account). You can share as much or as little information about yourself as you want.
Is this Community a Facebook group?
No. This Community is hosted on the platform, Circle, which has no connection with any social media. This means that your social media "friends" and "followers" will not see that you are a member.
Do I have to be on-camera if I attend the live events?
No. You can join the live events and opt to turn your camera off. Having said that, safety in the community is amplified when women fully engage with each other ~ one way to do this is to turn your camera on and allow yourself to be seen. While it may be uncomfortable at first, you may be pleasantly surprised at how good it feels to connect deeper with other women in that way.
Is this Community like group therapy?
No. While Dr. Ashley is a licensed therapist, this group is an educational and community support space only. Dr. Ashley is not practicing as a therapist, and this community is not intended to be a substitute for therapy or any other form of professional mental health support. Also, membership in this community does not constitute a therapist-client relationship with Dr. Ashley.
If you are experiencing a mental health crisis or emergency and need immediate assistance, please call 911, visit your nearest emergency room, or call the Suicide Prevention Lifeline at (800) 273-8255.
The Culture of this Community
The Self-Restoration Community is a sanctuary for women to "do the work" to heal from Overfunctioning.
It is a space where women come together to self-reflect, take responsibility for their personal growth and healing, and support each other to make courageous moves. It is a space filled with clarity, validation, encouragement, truth, and hope!
Towards this end, the Community is not a space to complain about or berate partners, stay stuck in hopelessness or victimhood, or tell other women what they should do.
Here, we do not ask, “How do I get them to change?”
Rather, we ask, "What can I change within me so that I stop abandoning myself?"
Together, we choose a new way forward, rooted in clarity, courage, and self-respect.
Being a part of this sacred Community isn’t just a membership...it’s a movement, a sisterhood, a lifeline.
You don't have to journey this season of life alone...
We all know women are so powerful when we stick together. But how many of us have female friends who really GET what it's like to be caught in Overfunctioning with an Underfunctioning Partner?
This is why The Self-Restoration Community is SO special. It's a safe space filled with women who get it. Women who know this hell. Women who are done trying to raise an adult. Women who are in the "dark night of the soul," trying to find their way through one of the hardest things they've ever been through.
...if you think my Instagram community is amazing, JUST WAIT until you see the magic inside this private community.
(Don't follow me on IG yet? Get a feel for my community at @drashleysouthard)